We've all heard “it's the thought that counts”.  I've often heard people use it as sort of an excuse for not following up “thought” with actions.  Like when you run into a friend three days after your birthday and they say, “I thought about you on your birthday but got busy and forgot to call.”  Or if someone gives you a gift you can't possibly use (3 sizes too small or something you're allergic to), were they really thinking of you?  If they are thinking of you, won't they make sure to get something that fits or that you can actually eat?

Well, it's the thought that counts right?

I'm not so sure.  Recently Erik did something really nice for me (which isn't unusual) and while I was enjoying the benefit of his actions I had a revelation of sorts.  What he did for me was incredibly sweet, thoughtful, relaxing and generous; Yet, knowing he was thinking of me as he prepared the surprise for me, meant more than the actual act of kindness.  There's a sort of power in knowing someone is purposefully thinking of you and what you might enjoy.  For that period of time, you are the center of their attention - what a feeling.

When the thought is followed by action is when the thought counts most.  So, it's not really just “the thought that counts” is it?