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by J. Blair Lane

Habit Transformations

clock January 5, 2009 11:57 by author J. Blair Lane

They say insanity is doing the same thing but expecting different results.  I suppose that makes me crazy then because I am guilty of this very thing.  Actually, now that I think about it, I’m not sure I expected different results so much as I hoped I wouldn’t have to work that hard to change the behaviors giving me poor results.  Thinking “I need to change” doesn’t get me very far – at least not as far as it used to.  Long ago I would think about changing something and just do it.  Now, I’m ensconced in pitiful habits that leave me feeling icky on so many levels.  Things that started out harmlessly and morphed into auto responses that will take much work to undo.

Today I read an article in Today’s Christian Woman magazine (Jan/Feb 2009) about stopping naughty habits.  Obviously common sense tells us that you must practice the opposite of what you are wanting to eliminate.  I didn’t need anyone to tell me that.  The author says, “Breaking old habits and embracing new ones isn’t easy.  But it is learnable.”  Hmmm, learnable.  I had to agree that God gave me a brain capable of learning new things.  So this forced me to ask myself, “am I teachable?”  I looked up Webster’s definition of the word and part of it struck me with deep conviction.  In order to be “teachable” I must be “willing to learn”.

If my brain and body can learn poor habits then it stands to reason that I can learn to replace them with good habits.  I don’t have to think about driving anymore, I just drive.  I don’t have to think about washing my hair or where it comes in my shower routine, I just do it like my body is on autopilot.  The more we practice something the easier and more automatic it becomes… like typing.  Which I’ve been doing during this entire post thus far without even thinking about it.

I like how the author states that habits “aren’t just about willpower.”  I needed to read that today.  When I pried myself out of bed at 5 o’clock this morning I kept telling myself, “this will get easier.”  The truth is though, it won’t get easier unless I make waking at five a true habit which means I have to practice waking at that time every morning.  I must be “willing” to practice it too.  Currently my brain is programmed to be a night owl and if left alone I can autopilot that behavior quite well.

There are several bad habits I am hoping to break this year.  Right now it is helping me to see it as  “learnable” rather than browbeating myself into submission.   I’m not sure it will make the process easier but hopefully it will improve my attitude about it and thus make me more “willing to learn” new responses.

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Looking Back...Looking Front

clock December 31, 2007 22:00 by author J. Blair Lane

I would LOVE to be able to report the nitty gritty details of last year's goals.  Unfortunately, I stopped keeping track of much about mid year.  I've decided that I don't want to track the "tedious" any longer....like ounces of water and exercise days for example.  Do I really want to waste my time writing down every ounce of water I drink per day?  Uh, No.  I'm just not in the mood to enter numbers into spreadsheets for the sole purpose of saying, "hey, look at all the water I drank last year!"  No, I'm done with that.

I mentioned last year that every year has a "theme".  Usually it's a theme that I haven't chosen but it has a theme nonetheless.  I've been considering what this year's theme was and I think it was "Change".  Changes in locations, changes in belief systems, changes in priorities, changes in finances...etc.  Things that seemed soooo important even a year ago seem ridiculously unimportant to me now.  I'm the mother and teacher to four small kids.  I'm the wife of an amazing man.  I've asked myself lately if I am doing those jobs to the best of my ability...and I'm afraid the answer is "no".  How on earth can I expect God to give me further responsibility (or success) when I'm not doing my best where He's placed me already?  This question greatly influenced the list you'll find below.

Some of the goals I'm setting for myself can't really be tracked in a tangible way.  That frustrates this "list keeper" like you would not believe.  At the same time, I need mostly goals that will remind me of what's really important and a few that can be "tracked".  So,  it's time for that "list" now:

2008 Goals

Time for God!

  • Keep daily time with God a priority!
  • Continue to journal my prayers.
  • Memorize scripture.
  • Read through the entire Bible again (in chronological order this time).
  • Complete at least two in-depth Bible Studies.

Time for Husband!

  • Plan a date night every other week!
  • If possible, plan a weekend trip for two....no kids!
  • Make him feel special...because he is.

Time for Kids!

  • Make learning FUN!
  • Get connected with other homeschool families.
  • Games, field trips, just PLAY!
  • Patience...patience...oh, um, did I mention PATIENCE!!

Time for Me!

  • No more dieting.
  • Read 12 titles.
  • Write for fun - get back to why I like doing it.
  • Digital scrapbooking...stop procrastinating and being perfectionistic...just do it!

Time for Others!

  • Send out photos to the family more regularly.
  • Hang out with the gals at GC.
  • Will add to this once we get settled in Colorado ;)

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On The Move Again...

clock December 24, 2007 11:21 by author J. Blair Lane

First of all...Merry Christmas Eve!

Second, this will likely be my last post from Maryland (and probably last post of the year).  We plan to head out on Saturday morning.  The kids and I will hang out in Texas for a bit before moving on to Colorado!!  We're all very excited about this next chapter in our lives.

In 2008, my husband and I hope to post a joint blog series on our “debt reduction” journey.  Having made our final unsecured debt payment on Friday, we have a lot to share from the last almost two years.

Also, I will be talking some more about my “no more dieting” point of view and how incredibly freeing it has been for me.

If I have time, I may post my 2008 goals, but for now, I'm in packing mode.

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1 Week till Christmas “To Do” List:

clock December 18, 2007 07:47 by author J. Blair Lane

Done…Now I have to start packing to relocate next month…more to come on that!

 

Ä   Deleted a couple of items that couldn’t be completed.

 

ü Halloween Costumes

ü Sort, Purge Kids’ Clothes

ü Sort, Purge Adult Clothes

ü Finish Reading The Screwtape Letters

ü Finish Fall/Winter clothes shopping

ü Read Yada Yada Prayer Group book 7

ü Host the COB

ü Report cards for First Quarter

ü Order Thanksgiving dinner (DH did this)

ü Write Christmas Poem

ü Finish Living Beyond Yourself Study

ü Christmas shopping

ü Christmas tree

ü Take annual family photo

ü Have Jewel draw picture for front of cards

ü Finish Reading Great Lion of God

ü Participate in NaNoWriMo (27,672 words)

ü Sort, purge kids’ toys

ü Finish Bi-annual sort, purge, ritual

ü Print and mail Christmas cards

ü Pack and mail gifts to family

ü Sort, itemize and deliver donations to Mission

ü Finish formatting/printing the kids’ Bible Study pages through December

ü Wrap gifts

ü Post 2007 “Book List”

ü Write 2008 Goals

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2007 Book List

clock December 12, 2007 07:40 by author J. Blair Lane

Here is my 2007 book list.  My goal was to read 12 books this year.  I  haven't started working on my wish list for 2008 yet but I do think that I'll monitor my reading time a bit more closely next year.  There were other goals I wanted to meet but spent that time reading/studying instead. 

The Holy Bible - I read through the Bible this year (1.5 times actually) .  This particular study Bible is my all time favorite so I thought I'd link to it here.

Beth Moore

C.S. Lewis

Neta Jackson

Max Lucado

Lynne Reid Banks

Others

 

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2 Weeks till Christmas “To Do” List:

clock December 10, 2007 07:35 by author J. Blair Lane

Getting there…

 

Ä   Deleted a couple of items that couldn’t be completed.

 

à Finish formatting/printing the kids’ Bible Study pages through December

à Write 2008 Goals

à Wrap gifts

à Post 2007 “Book List”

 

 

ü Halloween Costumes

ü Sort, Purge Kids’ Clothes

ü Sort, Purge Adult Clothes

ü Finish Reading The Screwtape Letters

ü Finish Fall/Winter clothes shopping

ü Read Yada Yada Prayer Group book 7

ü Host the COB

ü Report cards for First Quarter

ü Order Thanksgiving dinner (DH did this)

ü Write Christmas Poem

ü Finish Living Beyond Yourself Study

ü Christmas shopping

ü Christmas tree

ü Take annual family photo

ü Have Jewel draw picture for front of cards

ü Finish Reading Great Lion of God

ü Participate in NaNoWriMo (27,672 words)

ü Sort, purge kids’ toys

ü Finish Bi-annual sort, purge, ritual

ü Print and mail Christmas cards

ü Pack and mail gifts to family

ü Sort, itemize and deliver donations to Mission

 

I hope to change each Ä to a Pover the next 2 weeks.

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3 Weeks till Christmas “To Do” List:

clock December 3, 2007 06:11 by author J. Blair Lane

I completely forgot to post my update last week.  I’m so ready to be done with this list.  I am actually hoping to finish it (or come close) this week.

 

Ä   Deleted a couple of items that couldn’t be completed.

 

à Finish formatting/printing the kids’ Bible Study pages through December

à Sort, itemize and deliver donations to Mission (almost done)

à Write 2008 Goals

à Wrap gifts

à Pack and mail gifts to family

à Print and mail Christmas cards

à Post 2007 “Book List”

 

 

ü Halloween Costumes

ü Sort, Purge Kids’ Clothes

ü Sort, Purge Adult Clothes

ü Finish Reading The Screwtape Letters

ü Finish Fall/Winter clothes shopping

ü Read Yada Yada Prayer Group book 7

ü Host the COB

ü Report cards for First Quarter

ü Order Thanksgiving dinner (DH did this)

ü Write Christmas Poem

ü Finish Living Beyond Yourself Study

ü Christmas shopping

ü Christmas tree

ü Take annual family photo

ü Have Jewel draw picture for front of cards

ü Finish Reading Great Lion of God

ü Participate in NaNoWriMo (27,672 words)

ü Sort, purge kids’ toys

ü Finish Bi-annual sort, purge, ritual

 

I hope to change each Ä to a Pover the next 3 weeks.

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NaNoWriMo 2007 Ends

clock December 1, 2007 14:12 by author J. Blair Lane
Ok, so I didn't hit the coveted 50K words but I did do a lot better than last year.  I closed out the month at 27,672 words - although I didn't get to the site before midnight to update my count.  I don't know if I have a story to build on but it's possible.  Before I do anything more with this one though, I have another project that I need to finish.  In the meantime, this one can marinate in my hard drive.

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5 Weeks till Christmas “To Do” List:

clock November 20, 2007 09:02 by author J. Blair Lane

Just plugging along.  I don’t feel like I’m getting much accomplished but I guess I am.

 

Ä   Operation Christmas Child (missed deadline)

Ä   Print and mail Christmas cards

Ä   Take annual family photo

Ä   Wrap gifts

Ä   Christmas tree

Ä   Pack and mail gifts to family

Ä   Report cards for Second Quarter/1st Semester

Ä   Post 2007 “Book List”

Ä   Lose 9-18 pounds

 

 

à Finish Reading Great Lion of God

à Finish Bi-annual sort, purge, donate ritual

à Finish formatting/printing the kids’ Bible Study pages through December

à Sort, itemize and deliver donations to Mission

à Write 2008 Goals

à Participate in NaNoWriMo (15,160 words so far)

à Have Jewel draw picture for front of cards

à Sort, purge kids’ toys

 

 

ü Halloween Costumes

ü Sort, Purge Kids’ Clothes

ü Sort, Purge Adult Clothes

ü Finish Reading The Screwtape Letters

ü Finish Fall/Winter clothes shopping

ü Read Yada Yada Prayer Group book 7

ü Host the COB

ü Report cards for First Quarter

ü Order Thanksgiving dinner (DH did this)

ü Write Christmas Poem

ü Finish Living Beyond Yourself Study

ü Christmas shopping

 

 

 

I hope to change each Ä to a Pover the next 5 weeks.

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6 Weeks till Christmas “To Do” List:

clock November 12, 2007 11:04 by author J. Blair Lane

I see things on the list that I haven’t even started that really need to be done in the next couple of weeks.  I need to start making better use of my time!

 

Ä   Sort, purge kids’ toys

Ä   Operation Christmas Child

Ä   Write Christmas Poem

Ä   Have Jewel draw picture for front of cards

Ä   Print and mail Christmas cards

Ä   Take annual family photo

Ä   Wrap gifts

Ä   Christmas tree

Ä   Pack and mail gifts to family

Ä   Report cards for Second Quarter/1st Semester

Ä   Post 2007 “Book List”

 

 

à Finish Reading Great Lion of God

à Finish Living Beyond Yourself Study

à Finish Bi-annual sort, purge, donate ritual

à Finish formatting/printing the kids’ Bible Study pages through December

à Sort, itemize and deliver donations to Mission

à Lose 9-18 pounds (down 1.2 lbs)

à Write 2008 Goals

à Participate in NaNoWriMo (9,718 words so far)

à Christmas shopping

 

 

ü Halloween Costumes

ü Sort, Purge Kids’ Clothes

ü Sort, Purge Adult Clothes

ü Finish Reading The Screwtape Letters

ü Finish Fall/Winter clothes shopping

ü Read Yada Yada Prayer Group book 7

ü Host the COB

ü Report cards for First Quarter

ü Order Thanksgiving dinner (DH did this)

 

 

 

I hope to change each Ä to a Pover the next 6 weeks.

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